Monthly Archives: February 2013

So much for planning….

I want to cry. I was so ahead this morning. I told myself that each Monday, in that one precious hour in which the big guys are in school and Spinner has speech class, I would write. And write I did; three blog posts with today’s being the longest. And now, as I go to post it and add my pictures, I see my drafts box has only one entry, which happens to be the shortest and most unfinished. The rest are who-knows-where.

So today’s post, one I was totally excited about is now going to be reduced to a fragment. But maybe that’s ok, because that early in the morning I may have been too blah, blah, blah…. I do tend to yammer. So here is the gist:

Creative, messy, loud, busy, wild, active, crazy is good sometimes, not all of the time. 

Calm, peace, gentleness, rest, quiet, slow are all needed in our home. Very, very much.

I think I might finally have an idea of how to get there. 

We have some necessary changes to make in our family. I’ll get more to the why the next day. Changes that are not going to be easy, but which in the long run I think will leave all five of us stronger, happier and a closer family. 

In the meantime…..

 

Not good:

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Good!

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Not good:

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Good!

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The Space In Between

I never thought I was one much for silence. The radio blaring, a classroom full of elementary school musicians, my boys hollering and shrieking, my own mouth running a mile a minute….noise didn’t bother me, so I thought little of silence.

But raising three boys, especially three very, very busy boys makes for some crazy in this household. And I often wonder, why does this household feel so chaotic, so much sometimes? Why are we always living in pandemonium? Why can’t I seem to grab a sense of calm for myself, and more importantly, my boys? 

And then, last week after a particularly challenging 4th grade music class, I stood chatting with their classroom teacher after school about how awful they had been that day, arguing, fighting, bossing, tattling….unproductive and unhappy, both students and teachers. “Yeah, ” she said, “I think I need to do a silent day tomorrow.”

Huh? Silence, the entire day? With 4th graders? HOW? She explained that she has to plan the lessons specifically to be able to teach that way, but basically, everything for the day is typed out on the board. It is a day designed to calm, to restore order, to regain the peace. “It’s almost magical,” she said. “But I can’t say one word. As soon as I do, it’s over.” 

And it got me to thinking, not just in my own teaching, but in my own life, how much I might be able to gain from silence. Letting there be space between the words. Listening. Writing it down. Drawing a picture. Not repeating myself 20 times or having the same argument for 30 minutes. What might it bring? What might I hear?

And so this is an experiment. Playing with silence, seeing what we can gain from it, how much of it we can find. Looking, listening for a little peace.

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